Me or the children?

Posted by Karen Degen on 22nd May 2014

Tags: children, decision, guilt

Many times we feel guilty for making a decision that will make us happy but might negatively affect the children. What are we teaching the children though if we always put others first and consequently live lives of ongoing misery? Is it useful to teach them to stay constrained by society’s rules and expectations no matter how miserable it makes them? It seems to me that its more useful to teach the children how to find happiness in life. It seems to me that this gift is far more valuable than the thing they might be losing (like a “stable” nuclear family for example). Let go of the guilt and lead by example by being the happiest and most emotionally peaceful person you can be.